Commandment Seven

For our story that clearly shows the folly of committing adultery, we used David and Bathsheba. David is on the roof & sees this beautiful woman next door taking a bath (in a large plastic storage bin). Should he keep looking? NO! But what does he do? He whips out a pair of binoculars (two toilet paper rolls taped together) for a closer look. He really wants to know who she is so he calls a servant up & gives him the binoculars. Servant says it's Uriah's wife & he is dispatched to go bring her. She gets out of the "tub" and puts on a bathrobe (over her clothing, of course!) & comes to David. They sit on the recliner together and are briefly covered with a blanket. Bathsheba was one of our neurotypical girls, & was acting very flirtatious in the recliner. Our autistic David was totally oblivious to what was supposed to be going on. Just as well!

Bathsheba goes home, but soon sends a servant to tell David she is pregnant. Our servant, Sally, doesn't speak much, so I told her she could just gesture to describe a large tummy. But Mrs. Chu really wants to encourage her to talk more (which is good) so she was trying to insist she say "she's having a baby." But for some reason this struck Sally so funny she couldn't get a word out. Every time she opened her mouth she would start shaking with silent laughter. Occasionally she would just make the gesture. It was very cute and funny to watch! Eventually we decided she'd communicated well enough, so David sends for Uriah to "talk about how the fighting is going," (looking at a map together). Then David tells him to go home but instead he sits on the couch with the servant under a blanket. David then has to go with plan B, which is to send a letter by the hand of poor Uriah himself, to Joab to tell him to arrange Uriah's death.

This taken care of, David plays the benefactor: oh, his loyal soldier is dead and left a pregnant widow—he will take care of her by marrying her! (they march down the room to the wedding march) He may think he's gotten away with this, but soon Nathan the prophet comes & tells him he's going to be punished by having people steal his wives, and there will always be killing among his descendants. He immediately admits his sin, so at least is spared being put to death himself. End of story.

Our game was three-legged racing to illustrate the truth that a married couple is meant to walk through life together. I had brought an old leg-warmer to use as a simple way to join the legs of each pair. Someone asked, are you sure it's going to be big enough for two people's legs? I said I was sure, because I had checked by putting it around both of my "sturdy" calves the previous evening—and then of course the phone rang…(true story)!

For craft, following the wedding theme, each child had a cartoon couple on which to stick various parts of fancy wedding outfits, in the correct order. I was surprised at all the neckless couples we ended up with—I thought the kids had done better with this craft three years ago. Maybe the parents helped more the first time? It was fun for everyone though.

Commandment Six

An exhausting morning at Merciful Love! We had eleven kids, & eleven adults. Pretty crowded, but we still fit!

For our story, we had a condensed & slightly edited version of II Samuel 2 & 3. First we introduced Israel's first king, Saul. But because he was not loyal to God, God chose someone else to take his place, David. But because David remembered the commandment "thou shalt not kill," he was willing to wait for God's time to become king. When Saul finally died, though, some people felt that his son Ishbosheth should be the new king. One country, two kings—what happens? War! So each king chose a general from among the other kids—Joab for David, Abner for Ishbosheth.

Next we introduced Joab's little brother Asahel who wasn't very skilled in warfare but was very brave and very fast. He starts chasing Abner, who also would rather not kill such an innocent, and tries to persuade him to go chase somebody else. But Asahel doesn't listen, he catches up to Abner, & gets killed.

War drags on for a while, and finally (here's my major editing job) Ishbosheth gets impatient and accuses Abner of being lazy and useless. Abner takes offense and defects to David. Of course then Ishbosheth is in big trouble & he dies before too long. So now there's just one king, and peace in the land. Everybody's happy except—whom? Joab, of course. Not only is his little brother dead, but he has to be partners with the guy who killed him! So under the guise of "discussing business," he arranges a private chat with Abner, and kills him.

When David hears, he is angry, and explains to Joab that while killing in war is one thing, killing someone from sheer jealously & dislike is quite another. Joab "gets away with murder" by protesting that Abner was too dangerous a potential traitor. But David demonstrates that he did not condone the murder by personally arranging for Abner's burial (his being covered with a blanket, that is) and commanding everyone in the room to cry for him.

Game time: we heard in the story that in war there usually has to be killing, but wouldn't it be nice to have battles where people didn't have to die? So we battled for the championship of pillow-fighting on a low balance beam. Whoever fell off first was the loser in a double-elimination tournament, which we never quite finished with all those kids, but everyone got at least two turns. One reason we didn't finish was that everyone's balance was so good! It was really hard to get anyone to fall off the beam! In some of the contests, I had to resort to tickling (both kids at once) to speed up the process!

Craft time was horrendous. The idea was good; we said that the opposite of killing was healing, & set out to make stethoscopes out of drinking straws & a bottle cap. The problem was, you had to string this all together by getting the yarn through these drinking straws. I had done one at home and it went very easily. However, I had used the heaviest large-eyed needle in my collection, and it would fall through the straw easily, even when, as with the first straw, there were two strands of yarn to draw through. Most of the needles I had were much lighter, and it was very difficult. Either we needed heavier needles, or lighter string, which I certainly could have managed had I realized the problem. Once again, I was humbly amazed at how accepting everyone was of the mess-up. I was by far the most frustrated person of the entire group!

Fifth commandment, and a welcome break

It was good to be back with the Merciful Love crowd this Sunday! I was still feeling pretty wiped out from all the drama of Bruce's hospitalization. So I was very thankful to be able to just dump the responsibility for the story in Kevin's capable lap. He'd led a story on the Prodigal Son a couple of years ago, and that is the story of choice for the theme of "Honor Your Father and Mother." Doesn't Ka Ho look the part of the young man living high on the hog on his father's money?

Our game was "pass the hats"—one "parent's hat" and one "child's hat" were passed around the circle as music played. When it stopped, whoever was the "child" had to kneel and pur a cup of tea for the "parent." The crowd was a little too big so that there were a lot of repeats before some of the kids got one chance to be in the game. But we hadn't wanted to restrict it to just the kids, because it's part of the fun when some adult has to reverse the roles and kneel before a child to honor them with this tea ceremony.

When we'd done this commandment before, it happened to fall on Father's Day, so the craft was obvious. However, it didn't work out that way this year, so we needed something different. One thing that we wanted to bring out in the discussion on the story was that neither of the two sons in the parable really believed in or appreciated the depth of their father's love for them. So we honored the parents' love by making them Olympic style gold medals (chocolate) with stickers on the back reading 愛心獎 (love award), and then had a little ceremony awarding them to the parents/caregivers. Mrs. Wong won two gold medals!

I really enjoyed leading the Bible study time. We talked about how bad they would feel if their children didn't believe they loved them, or didn't want a real relationship with them but only wanted what they could get out of them. We then pointed out how Jesus had actually told this parable to help us get to know our heavenly Father—and do you suppose He feels bad when we don't want to have a love relationship with him? No one gave me a verbal answer, but everyone looked a bit stunned at the thought. A good concept for them to chew on during the coming week!

This morning Bruce was back with us. He managed the four flights of stairs just fine with his crutches! We didn't have a regular program; again a team of three helpers from a church in Hong Kong watched the kids (along with Bruce who isn't up to a lot of running around in the heat yet), and the rest of the adults went to an outdoor café in a nearby park for some drinks and conversation.

Trying to continue on the theme we sort of began last week, my plan was to discuss how to develop a heart relationship with our heavenly Father. I was surprised to find how many didn't seem to find it a difficult concept to pour out their hearts to God (Psalm 62:8). Just in case their words were more confident than their practice, however, I did go ahead and pass out little cards with some suggestions for getting started, such as, "Heavenly Father, I feel sad about…I don't know what to do about…I am fearful of…I don't understand…"etc.

Another thing that came out during the discussion, which we started by asking, "to whom do you turn when you need to share your heart with someone?" was how much these parents are able to trust and share freely with one another. This kind of openness is not terribly common in the Chinese church, and it's truly a blessing!

Commandment Four

As I mentioned last week, I couldn't be there for this past Sunday's service, so have no specific highlights to share. Just the general outline, for posterity's sake:

The story we chose to illustrate proper Sabbath-keeping was the gathering of manna in the wilderness. Moses was introduced, and then all the rest of the kids shouldered their "baggage" and followed him around the room. The point was made that this was desert country without enough food to eat. So everyone starts giving Moses a hard time & he prays to God for help. God promises there will be food in the morning. Moses conveys this to the people, and they all go into the side bedrooms and crowd onto the beds to "sleep". Meanwhile the leader scatters a bunch of little foam squares over the floor in the living room. The kids "wake up" the next day & come out & gather it. What does it taste like? Wafer cookie squares passed out to everyone.

What about tomorrow? the people want to know. Go to bed and see! So they all go to bed. The next "morning," they find twice as many squares to gather. More wafers to eat.

Someone asks if this will happen every day. Moses says, almost every day, but did you notice there was twice as much today as yesterday? That is because tomorrow is the Sabbath, when we are not supposed to do any work, including gathering food. You have enough for tomorrow, so you can enjoy sleeping in!

Everybody goes back to bed. But then a couple of kids get up before the others and go out looking for manna. Of course they don't find any. Moses scolds them and says they need to learn to trust God to take care of them, and enjoy their rest. God knows their need for food, and He also knows their need for rest, which is why He created the Sabbath. They eat some more wafers and agree that from now on they will trust God & not just themselves.

Craft came before game time for this lesson. Each child received a box drink (sweetened soy milk, a favorite of all) plus a wrapped rectangle of pressed seaweed (another favorite treat—of theirs, not mine!), and wrapped them together in gift wrap, then labeled it with their own names. Then these were placed aside.

For the game, there were six cooperative tasks involving the stack of stools we use as extra seating: line up ten stools in a row, arrange them in a circle, turn them upside down, flip them back over and stack them by two's, separate them again & wipe them down with cloths, and finally, stack them in one pile and store them in the storeroom. After each task, they were to sit down and pretend to sleep, signifying six days of work. The responsibility after waking up on the seventh day was enjoy God's gift of leisure by opening their gift-wrapped packages and eating and drinking! Like I said, I wasn't there, but I would guess that this was a popular game, especially the ending!

I will be there for the next commandment, hooray! Bruce is safely out of the hospital; this time the hip seems to be holding together nicely, thank the Lord!